I’m not sure I mentioned this earlier but I did decide to get an elective section with my baby. She was transverse, then breach, she never went head down and never went down. I did all the miles of walking, bouncing and standing on my head stunts and nothing. My ob-gyn presented my options of trying to turn her through an external cephalic version, presented the risks and mentioned that in my case the probability of turning her successfully were low and chances of them having to induce labor and/or going into an emergency section were high so her medical opinion was to get a scheduled c-section.
I mean- I had a low risk quotient on this pregnancy- so I went along. It was only then that I saw that the world around me seemed to have a stigma around elective sections. I heard all these women talk about all natural births without epidurals, hypno-birthing, birthing in the wild and delivering at home in their bath tub. I mean, sure if that’s what works for you- go for it. Don’t get me wrong here- I’m all for ‘live and let live‘ and two of my best friends had medication-free deliveries- one of them even did it twice- but there is something here about women wanting and needing to endure and do it all- that seems to be at the crux of it all. I heard the term ‘performative grit‘ today and yeah, it kind of made sense. Maybe some of us love pain and want to see how much we can push ourselves and our bodies, maybe we can do it all- more power to us. But maybe we should not judge each other anymore for the choices we all make or have to make and just support each other?
The goal is to safely bring these beautiful precious gifts into the world and each one of us is going to have a unique experience- after all we are all crating unique beings aren’t we? How we choose to do it seems to be a created first world problem that we all can easily deal with. The fact that we are given that choice is a gift and we should definitely learn to cherish that.